Is it possible? Can you successfully date (ie have a relationship) while going after your dreams? Shak & I discuss this from time to time & it's still up in the air for me. I haven't been successful to date but the optimist in me believes it's possible. The hard part is that the amount of time and devotion it takes to make things pop is serious. Hell, having a "regular" job can put your grind into jeopardy. I think that in addition to the general set of standards that one has in dating when you throw major passion for what you do into the mix the stakes get even higher. That significant other has to be on that same level of intensity for it to work. But man, retaining friendships can prove trying enough and romance brings it's own set of challenges.
What if your partner doesn't have the same drive? Nope, can't work. They don't understand why you go so hard. I remember this guy who was trying to date me couldn't get around the fact that I got up so early every morning. No, dude I can't talk to you every night for hours, I gotta get up at 3:30a to kick my own behind. Gotta be aware of the saboteur. Well, what if he/she doesn't have the same level of self awareness? Ahh, it might prove to be too much. Feelings of inadequacy start to creep in through the window. Jealousy. Resentment. What if it's so dope on so many levels but you just don't have the time? In large part, I do believe you make time for what you want. But maybe this isn't the best time? My boy Norio has a theory, he thinks that you can't get to that level of greatness if you're seeing someone seriously. His case & points? Oprah and Bill Gates. I think that finding that balance in your overall life of interdependence will debunk that. Being confident enough in yourself to be able to depend on and trust in others in a healthy way may be the key. I'm working on uncovering that happy medium as I'm coming back from being too independent.
Are relationships just another level of comfort, though? Do you have to sacrifice having someone around to truly focus on that goal? Because getting to the next level when you're starting from scratch-ish changes the caliber of people you spend time with. You know the adage, you are who you hang around....So if being a winner in life is what you are after then those are the people with which you have to consort. That means no wackness. No settling, not even a lil baby bit. I believe once you start down that road it becomes easier the next time and the time after and you look up and you're still in that "regular" job that was only supposed to make ends meet until you blow and now you're being thrown a retirement party. Not. The. Business.
I think that you can have it all. If that's what you decide then that's what you'll get. I know that I have to be SUPER clear about what I want in every aspect of my life because otherwise, I'm just along for the ride and a ride is precisely what I'll be taken on. So, just like I have the vision for my production company, philanthropic endeavors, etc clear in my mind and heart, the vision for my partner has to be crystal, as well.
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